If a picture is worth 1000 words, then a word is worth 1000 pictures. Since waking up to this, I’m more selective with my words, whether uttered or just in thought. In the past, words tumbled mindlessly around in my head stirring up emotions, frequently negative, that would spontaneously combust into a tirade or a tantrum, or simmer as internal gloom, fear, or resentment. And I thought it was real. I simply wasn’t paying attention.
We give much attention to getting sober from drugs and alcohol but emotional sobriety is something that, in alcoholic or dysfunctional families, everyone loses. And everyone needs to get back. The essence of emotional sobriety is good self-regulation… when we can’t bring our feeling and thinking into some sort of balance, our life and our relationships feel out of balance too. The ability to self-regulate, to bring ourselves into balance, is key to emotional sobriety.
The Serenity Prayer… only 27 little words, but with such power, strength, and insight packed perfectly within. Potentially treacherous situations––like being at work or being at home, being with my kids or with my parent, throughout my marriages and for sure during my divorces, in conversations and confrontations––this mantra, this ultimate navigational tool, can be counted on to unfailingly guide me through.
Our guest post this week, curated from the blog at Mindworks, is a beautiful reminder that focusing on the here and now is the key to peace and serenity. You may access the original article here. In gratitude, harmony, and
Do you find that even though you know you can hit the reset button any time you choose, there’s something about a new calendar year that invites a really serious evaluation of what ought to be reset? What’s calling for more… what’s calling for less? Here, just days into the new year, I can already feel the gravitational pull of the old familiar starting to tug at me. And all of my intentions start to feel more “out there” than “right here right now.” UNLESS actions are taken…
If you take the time to create actionable goals for yourself, your New Year’s resolutions can be an important tool in promoting a lasting recovery. Most New Year’s resolutions fail because they are too vague or the person making the resolution hasn’t thought about how to achieve their goal. To set effective goals, the SMART goals framework is well-suited for people in recovery because it provides concrete suggestions for breaking down the vague goal of “sober” into a series of steps that provide a foundation for success.
How good it is to be fully present in this exact moment and remember to remember there is one all-encompassing intelligent power that envelopes and indwells me, now and always. I sense my Higher Power with recognition and appreciation that It is and always has been right here, right there, and everywhere… With deep exhilaration, I look ahead to a fresh clean slate of a new year, a new beginning, and a bubbling sense of pure potentiality. I carry forward with me all that still serves me and others from the previous year, and I gently release and set down that which does not.
During my first year of sobriety, the mere thought of New Year’s Eve had me panicking months in advance (like, September). I couldn’t fathom the idea of spending such a holiday without my two besties: drugs and alcohol… Now, two years later, I find myself less and less preoccupied (read: obsessed) with these two formerly-preferred party favors of mine. I’m by no means cured of my addiction… All I have are my own experiences and ideas to share. In the past 24 months, I’ve actually managed to enjoy several smashingly jocular holidays without the use of drugs or alcohol.