An Unexpected Birthday Gift

An Unexpected Birthday Gift

A dear friend since middle school relapsed. We’d shared so much, got married, had kids, and divorced around the same time. She moved far away. I got sober. Years later so did she. She relapsed once, twice. Recently she hit a new bottom. But when that bottom hit another bottom, her adult kids (those still speaking to her) joined forces. Filled with anger, disgust, fear, and resentment yet also just enough compassion, love, and caring to literally save her life, they called. Could I help, they wondered? A series of decisions had been made, actions were taken and delegated.

ODAAT – Really

ODAAT – Really

While I have found some amazing and treasured friendships in AA, not every meeting or group has been that way… I want to feel uplifted and empowered after a meeting, not defeated, insecure, and doubtfully questioning myself. In that regard, here’s an important lesson I’ve learned: Take what I can, and let the rest slip away. And try not to be judgmental about it. Some people just do it differently and that doesn’t make theirs bad and mine good. It doesn’t make them wrong and me right…

Saving a Seat (and Knowing the Truth)

Saving a Seat (and Knowing the Truth)

Old playgrounds, old playmates. Early in my sobriety, I grappled with the idea that I would have to give up the places and people I loved––the latter being the greater sacrifice, naturally.

It was easier than I imagined to avoid my old haunts, and most of my friends were happy to meet for coffee instead of drinks or to take a walk after dinner instead of staying out ’til the wee hours.

Recovery Consciousness: Keeping It Simple

Recovery Consciousness: Keeping It Simple

Life  is about change. Sometimes the changes are obvious when you are in a support group or therapy. But these environments are  like a hot house protecting delicate flowers. The real test is when you go out into the world. Can you practice what you have learned in when you go to work or socialize with your friends?  Yes! Just remember it is a process and it takes time. You will … move forward if you keep working at it and are optimistic when things seem to  be taking forever.