A dear friend since middle school relapsed. We’d shared so much, got married, had kids, and divorced around the same time. She moved far away. I got sober. Years later so did she. She relapsed once, twice. Recently she hit a new bottom. But when that bottom hit another bottom, her adult kids (those still speaking to her) joined forces. Filled with anger, disgust, fear, and resentment yet also just enough compassion, love, and caring to literally save her life, they called. Could I help, they wondered? A series of decisions had been made, actions were taken and delegated.
Try playing it forward to imagine what’s possible when we choose freedom and recovery. When we make use of our higher power, our sponsor, our fellows… Imaging how wonderful it feels to have authentic, honest relationships, financial freedom, energy and vitality, happiness and laughter about the simplest of things.
While I have found some amazing and treasured friendships in AA, not every meeting or group has been that way… I want to feel uplifted and empowered after a meeting, not defeated, insecure, and doubtfully questioning myself. In that regard, here’s an important lesson I’ve learned: Take what I can, and let the rest slip away. And try not to be judgmental about it. Some people just do it differently and that doesn’t make theirs bad and mine good. It doesn’t make them wrong and me right…
Old playgrounds, old playmates. Early in my sobriety, I grappled with the idea that I would have to give up the places and people I loved––the latter being the greater sacrifice, naturally.
It was easier than I imagined to avoid my old haunts, and most of my friends were happy to meet for coffee instead of drinks or to take a walk after dinner instead of staying out ’til the wee hours.
Our List Post this month features a dozen wonderful quotes from New Thought and Recovery. Enjoy these words of wisdom from the likes of Ernest Homes, Bill W., Napoleon Hill, and other great teachers of Truth!
Life is about change. Sometimes the changes are obvious when you are in a support group or therapy. But these environments are like a hot house protecting delicate flowers. The real test is when you go out into the world. Can you practice what you have learned in when you go to work or socialize with your friends? Yes! Just remember it is a process and it takes time. You will … move forward if you keep working at it and are optimistic when things seem to be taking forever.
The Higher Power, Grand Overall Design, How It Works, Thinking Stuff, the Thing Itself… Whatever you want to call it, although I felt suddenly devoid of It these past few days, I realized It’s working perfectly as always. In the absence of feeling great and on top of the world – in fact in the glaring presence of feeling dreadful and lowdown, I know with certainty that I am still connected and I can trust the process. Even in my crankiness and panic.
Who do you think you are? I heard that a lot growing up. Usually when I was “acting out” or living large in some way unbefitting to a little kid. I don’t recall it having the feeling tone of “I’ll tell you who you are: you are a magnificent being of light with unlimited possibilities!”