“We constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show… We become much more efficient. We do not tire so easily, for we are not burning up energy foolishly as we did when we were trying to arrange life to suit ourselves.”

Bill Wilson, Into Action, The Big Book


“Step out of the logical, sequential processes of the rational mind and discover a freer world with unlimited possibilities.”

Patrick Harbula, The Magic of the Soul


Detachment, Non-Attachment, and Expectations (oh my)


To my former and un-recovering self, it was simply subtle semantics between non-attachment and detachment but I discovered a lot of hidden power lurking there once I realized the difference.

Non-attachment is something I strive for.
Detachment is not, according to my perception of their meanings.

When I get attached to specific outcomes, aka have expectations, it’s very likely that disappointment and future resentments will follow.  Expectations are resentments on deck, waiting to step up and hit.

Until I got sober and woke up, it didn’t occur to me that I even had attachment or expectations. Though in hindsight this probably played into why I was annoyed and pissed off a lot. I spent a lot of time mentally glaring at people that probably had no inkling of what was going on, or of the elaborate scenarios I was orchestrating internally.

How powerfully freeing it is to no longer burn energy trying to run the show.

So much of what my limited thinking fanatically wanted to happen ironically ended up not even close to the magnificent results the universe delivered, leaving my paltry human expectations in the dust where they belonged.

Detachment to me at the time was having zero conscious involvement whatsoever. Detached was how I rolled through life when I was drinking – oblivious and not connected to my thoughts, actions, and behaviors; running on auto pilot.

Science of Mind teaches me about another powerfully subtle nuance: the one between expectations and attachments. I can tap into the law of attraction by developing healthy, solid, and positive expectations. These serve me when they are focused on great outcomes for my dreams, goals, and desires without attachment to specific details. That is they key – I don’t need to humanly know HOW it has to happen – only knowing that it will – or something even better!

I believe that when I am clear about what I want to achieve, attain, or feel, and expect it to manifest, that it (or something better) will as long as my thinking, emotions, and actions match it. The onus then is on me to keep my thinking free of the frantic energy of trying to be the director.

Prayers and treatments (affirmative prayers in Science of Mind) always use the expectation of the highest and the best outcome. So I practice focusing myself on how I’ll feel when that perfect outcome happens, and that creates the receptivity for it to come to pass.

I affirm that as I let go of attachment to specific outcomes, I fully expect that the universe responds to me in perfect alignment with my thoughts, feelings, and right actions.


Where are you holding expectations of specific outcomes?
Would you be open to something even better happening?
Can you close your eyes and get a mental image of yourself receiving or achieving this amazing thing?


In gratitude, harmony and support,


Detachment, Non-Attachment, and Expectations (oh my)

2 thoughts on “Detachment, Non-Attachment, and Expectations (oh my)

  • January 26, 2017 at 5:55 pm

    Excellent blog Lena. Ahh, the expectation let downs. It is much easier when we go with the flow as much as possible.

    • January 26, 2017 at 6:21 pm

      Hi Jon – thanks – sometimes I don’t even realize I had expectations until I realize after the fact I feel let down in some way. I am getting much better at reframing it when that happens, and recognizing “my part in it.” … but still…. Thank you for your comments and input…


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