“To grow, you must be willing to let your present and future be totally unlike your past.
Your history is not your destiny.” ~Alan Cohen
“We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it.” The Big Book – The Promises
Oh how I long for yesterday – well not really. With the utmost respect for Paul McCartney this wistful phrase does not particularly apply to me and to other alcoholics as far as I can tell. Sure there are moments from the past that I would like to repeat, and others I only wish I could do over.
But I get to release my negative attachment to the distasteful past memories through the help of the 6th and 7th steps. Couple that with the help of New Thought philosophy in recognition that my life curriculum has graduated me to this perfect platform to reflect on what I’ve learned from all that which has taken me to get this far. As I stand in this present moment with an eye on the future, I get to consciously trudge onward from where I am in this moment.
I love being able to know that I can say good bye to yesterday without having to drag the whole shebang with me continually. I get to choose what meaning the lessons have for me and to adapt my story to the future… I can let my past be my wings, not my anchors.
Lately I have been marveling at the versions of me that are showing up in situations previously perceived as stressful, and noticing the stress isn’t there. I fully comprehend that the event itself is neutral – it’s what I bring to it that defines the experience of it for me.
Example: I am in the process of purchasing a home. Paperwork, numbers, deadlines, negotiating, standing firm, detachment to specific outcome, knowing this or something better…. Historically, not my strongest points, yet I feel completely at home in the situation regardless of whether I end up at home in that house. Just because I used to cave in when confronted with uncomfortable moments, does not mean that I do that now.
My spiritual and emotional muscles are flexing. I am calm, confident, confident, and clear-headed in my sobriety and consciousness.
• Do you still define yourself by certain past events that could best be let go?
• Do you use positive events / memories from your past as equally defining?
• Can you retell your story with enough perspective to empower yourself?
In gratitude, harmony and support,