“Your addiction is not stronger than you. Though it may feel that way, it can only win if you let it.”
“Between stimulus and response lies a space. In that space lie our freedom and power to choose a response. In our response lies our growth and our happiness.”
Whether it’s s 10 years, 10 months, or 10 days of sobriety, all any of us really has is one day at a time. And the truth is, within that one day, we really only have this moment.
I see triggers and forces all over the place. Or, if I am paying attention, I can choose to see them as reminders that when I’m aligned with my Higher Power, and the Divine Infinite, I am free. I can choose not to engage in that behavior, verbal exchange, sweet treat, cocktail, or even thought – I can do a contrary action or no action at all.
That is why I value the work of strengthening up from the inside out so much. (Haven’t quite been able yet to master the regular practice of strengthening the physical on the outside …) But for me, the inner spiritual work is the key – it gives me the chance and the choice of how to respond (or not) in the moment.
It’s my responsibility to nurture my response-ability in the moment to assess the situation, know the truth, perhaps shift perceptions, and distance myself from my knee jerk reaction. That space between stimulus and response really is empowering. It’s a one-way-or-the-other path… and with mindfulness, awareness, and attentiveness it feels like that moment freezes in time enough for me to choose the sound path.
The craving does pass, I’ve learned. The thoughts of despair, revenge, or fear are just thoughts. They have no more power than that which I give them. Truth be told I sometimes still give them more power than they deserve, but overall more often than not, I can seize the moment which leads to so many less regrets.
It is in the pause that we have our power. From the everyday frustrations like traffic when I’m late, or a nincompoop’s annoying comment, or a larger, scarier event like an illness, I’m learning that my world is happier, lighter, and brighter when I respond mindfully
Pause when agitated… You will intuitively know how to handle situations… so many of these pithy little phrases pack a powerful punch of wisdom. They are Promises come to pass.
Putting them to action in the best possible way sharpens my response ability.
What is your strategy for responding in the way to best serve you / the situation?
Can you recall a specific occasion where you were grateful that you paused when agitated before responding?
In gratitude, harmony, and support,